Edited from a comment posted on an unrelated thread after saying I had no comment and being admonished to comment anyway.
OK, I’ll throw you a bone in general—even though I suspect you’re just trying to (nicely and respectfully) bait and goad me into doing what both of those women might dearly love, and issue my “standard treatment” in a post.
Well, I’ve already done that way back and that’s done for good. As for Evelyn, she’s pretty much just rehashing everything over and over; and even in the new twist of my post on the AHS volunteer, one of her own supportive commenters (then another—both who don’t like me) grudgingly admitted that on a closer reading of my post, I wasn’t attacking that person individually, but some of her silly notions about what AHS was and should be in my opinion.
I do have a post in draft clarifying that.
As for Melissa, I’m unsure of her motivations. That blog, while much is about me, much is also about others; and increasingly, Paleo/AHS in general. She’s just getting it started and things like that tend to be hard to judge in initial stages. It may surprise you, but I’m open to the possibility that it might turn out to be more constructive, like her regular blog is. I find it hard to accept that Melissa is at base the sort of nasty, bitter person who only finds fault in others. She has done a great deal to advance this whole movement going all the way back to the NYT piece and then her blog, and I don’t easily toss earned capital aside.
Furthermore, not responding directly to critics is not the same as ignoring them completely. I suppose it’s different for different things (such as performance artists, etc.). I do read pretty much all the criticisms of me I’m aware of or made aware of, and I do try to be open minded about it after the initial surge of anger or indignation. I’m a huge fan of dialectic (thesis, antithesis, synthesis) and I believe it absurd to think that we’re not in some ways shaped by what others say about us, good and bad. It’s a long process, hopefully to the betterment of all.
I’m also a big fan of lemonade, if you know what I mean. I do want to do more good than harm out there, so when there are reasonable arguments that I’m doing real and not just perceived harm, I want to take note of those charges and consider them. And if I’m wrong, I’m wrong; and the only thing to do is to stop being wrong. Simple. Logic. Egos sometimes need to be put in check.
The Kruse thing was a very bad error in judgment on my part, and the c-word thing, an error in doubling down when I should have been folding (as Robb Wolf did in that same situation, the LC Cruse incident). Had I done that then, none of this would be happening now. I caused it and brought all this on my self. Oh, well. Live & learn. I was at least able to chat some cordial hellos with Emily Deans at AHS, and she even mentioned it—I think in comments on Evelyn’s blog—and that she’s not a grudge holder. Me either. So that’s good.
Bottom line: It’s absurd to think that I or anyone else can’t use some criticism. But, perhaps Melissa, et al, is out to see to my destruction in terms of Paleo/Health blogging. I’d suggest there’s probably better uses of her time, but I don’t tell people what they should or shouldn’t do. I’m still considering some of the criticism of me and how it might mold what I do going forward, but I can also say that at least some of the criticism of Paleo/AHS I’ve seen so far is very much worth paying attention to, y’know, for those who want to improve and do better.
So there you have it.
As an additional note, Stefani Ruper of Paleo For Women has unfortunately been drawn into this for her implied association with me in connection with the guest post she did here: No One’s Power but Our Own: Paleo Sexist Woes, and an Invitation to Rise Up and Roar. As of right now, that post has a remarkable 62 ReTweets and an astounding 747 Facebook Likes—the most ever for any post on this blog.
She’s under pressure from a number of women to publicly denounce me and request that I take the post down.
…It’s suggested that I sought out Stefani for that post for largely the same reason I married a Latina, roomed with black guys in the past, employed mostly female Hispanics in my company and have gay and lesbian friends: as a smokescreen to hide my true nature of sexism, white supremacy, domination and misogyny because, you know, words in blog posts over a short time speak louder than actions over a lifetime.
In fact, Stefani emailed me to tell me she was going to write a post for my blog and suggested I damn well post it if I know what’s good for me, because she will be heard. That’s how it’s done, folks. She knew how to deal with me.
For those who asked me why I didn’t go after her in that AHS post because she had done a post on the masculin focus at AHS (she’s taken it down in favor of more positive endeavors). Two reasons:
- It was not my intention to go after anyone personally—as those who’ve read my post more carefully now know—but to criticize some of the notions of what AHS lacks and should be in terms of “diversity.” So to the extent that what Stefani advocates falls into that category, you could consider that my post covers it in general.
- Stefani knows I don’t agree with her on some stuff, and I know she doesn’t agree with me on some stuff. We both know where we do agree and what’s most important. But here’s the essential difference. Stefani isn’t sitting around complaining that the women’s issues important to her in a Paleo context aren’t being emphasized enough by men so women can sit back and take them in. She went out and created a blog focussed on those issues and values important to her, and I’m quite delighted that her guest post on my blog helped her to advance those goals and values.
Stefani is a doer and in no way do I even remotely require that what she does meets all of my standards of what’s most important. Simple as that.
Incidentally, in case anyone is going to assume I’m putting this up here in order to “butter Stefani up” so she doesn’t fall under the pressure to denounce me and request taking down that post, the foregoing has already been discussed with Stefani personally in email exchanges. We were and remain cool with one another.