A comment came in on my post from last week: Sunday Church for Human Animals: Those Poor, Poor American Feminists. Warning: This post contains written material that might cause heads to explode.
Richard, You really have no clue. Who the hell are you to speak about feminism as women experience it in America? Are you a woman? Do you have personal experience as a woman here in the states or anywhere for that matter? You have no idea the kind of systemic sexism that one may face as a woman so how dare you act as though you do. One of the reasons so many women are sexually repressed is due to sexism and the divide between what is socially acceptable for men verses women. As soon as a woman (myself) expresses her sexually, a man comes along and tries to own it, (you). How do you mean, you ask? By thinking that I use it to pander to the male ego. You think it is all about you and your maleness. It is really unbelievable in this day and age. Anyone can start a blog and try to garner readers by being angry and aggressive. I am not impressed to say the least. Try diversifying your reading material and doing the hard core soul searching that is required to bring about real change; and that starts with doing some mental weeding of the junk that floats around in your head. [emphasis added]
Then, apparently I emotionally abused her.
“Are you a woman?”
Yawn. Not that fallacy again. You’re dismissed.
You are an emotional abuser Richard. Get into therapy.
You have no more right to tell a woman what her experience is any more than I would have to tell what men experience. Don’t try to apply a definition to something that does not fit just because it sounds good to your average eighth grade reader.
Ok, this person needs a helping hand. And I’m just the gender-specific person to do it.
“an emotional abuser”
Look, let me be gregarious and help you out here, Robyn, because it is you who are the one completely operating from emotion. As such, you perceive any failure to validate your emotional feelings as “abuse.” Methinks thou art the one in need of a little therapy.
Now I’ll explain why you’re just simply wrong. While the form of your “argument” covers a whole slew of logical fallacies (appeal to authority, groupthink, etc.) it’s most basically simple ad hominem. You’re simply attacking me and my gender standing, not my actual arguments. Not a single one.
To help you understand how it is you’re doing this:
1. Imagine that instead of a post arguing against some forms of feminism (the radical sort, which I made clear), the post were to argue for them. By your own “logic,” my arguments are invalid because of my gender, even if a female might happen to make the exact same arguments.
2. You have automatically disqualified all males on Earth who have argued for feminism of any sort, for any reason.
3. You have failed to acknowledge the automatic correctness of all the arguments of any women against any forms of feminism. By your “logic,” their gender standing automatically trumps and makes them correct. Or,
4. You are minimally asserting that your gender-based feelings of emotion on the topic of feminism automatically trumps opposite feelings of emotion by any other women.
In short, Robyn, your entire line of “thinking” is an utter mess. You aren’t thinking, you’re emoting. May I suggest that in addition to therapy to help you rein in those emotions and to stop feeling abused anytime someone (or only males?) don’t automatically validate them based upon your special gender status, that you also search online for a course in logical reasoning and brush up?
Anyone else? Can anyone help a womyn out?