A year or so later, all of a sudden, Seth posted on his blog about something here. I’m not going to put in a bunch of links, but it was in about 2009/10, and it was about saturated fat vs. CVD, I believe, and Seth was intrigued by the statistics. He really thought there was something important about them, and he defended it pretty staunchly in comments either here, there, or both—which surprised me.
At the Ancestral Health Symposium, 2011 at UCLA, Seth approached me at the hotel to introduce himself, but also to introduce me to his friend, Tucker Max. Turns out, Tucker had something to say, and Seth gave up half of his 40-minute presentation space so Tucker could say it.
…And I’m like, ‘Seth hangs out with Tucker Max? How fucking cool is that?!’
What was cool beyond that is I guess he’d turned Tucker onto my blog previously, and Tucker had some kinds of advice for me (later; we corresponded for a time and I have autographed copies of his books).
I followed none of Tucker’s advice, paid the price. Still digging myself out.
…I got word of Seth’s demise this morning via a damn tweet.
I dropped this comment on the post by his sister, on his blog.
A man I often had a question for and was always honored and surprised that he had questions for me. A truly insatiably curious man, the very definition of a man in my eyes.
When I did my AHS11 presentation, he was the first person to the microphone for the Q&A. Every now and then, I’d get an email asking if and when I was going to blog about some thing or the other that I had said (and forgotten) I would blog about.
He probably had 3×5 cards or something to keep track.
It was immediately followed up by Andrew, a man confused about his loss.
It’s always about you, isn’t it, Richard?
And my reply:
We value people because they value us.
You can look at it any way you like. I lost. You lost.
I’m simply telling people how I lost.
Death is best viewed as selfish.
If you haven’t truly lost something, then aren’t you suspect if you say anything? Are you being a typical fraud? Are you expressing generic sympathies for common handshakes, nods and hugs, in the aim of it all being about you, nefariously?
I prefer to be honest about it. Seth’s death pisses me off because I lose something by it, and I’m a selfish fuck and I want him back, for my sake. That he lost his life is the given subject. When you lose literally everything, there’s nothing for you to write home about, anymore.
I’m pissed off about Seth because I know I’m not getting any more emails from him and if ever I find myself at another conference as speaker or attendee, I’m not going to have him coming up and striking up a conversation like he did for me at both AHS11 and 12.
…And, I’ll no longer see him as a Cc in the many email convos over the years with all so many, in subjects across the board.
You have a choice, now: Flap you lips or fingers like the 99%, expressing your condolences and all that other banal bullshit…
Or, tell us what Seth took from you, and what you lost by him going and dying on you.