“You are out of the loop,” she told me in that linked comment.
Oh, yes; I see: THE loop. But, I’m wondering just which of THE loop I’m out of.
– Am I out of the Solipsism loop, were, loosely stated, only one’s own personal experience is truly valid?
– Or, perhaps I’m out of the Dunning-Kruger loop, “a cognitive bias manifesting in unskilled individuals suffering from illusory superiority, mistakenly rating their ability much higher than is accurate. This bias is attributed to a metacognitive inability of the unskilled to recognize their ineptitude.”
– Maybe it’s just the run-of-mill circular reasoning loop I’m out of.
– The confirmation bias loop?
– Oh, here’s a great loop to be out of: Argumentum ad populum, “a fallacious argument that concludes a proposition to be true because many or most people believe it.”
…Well for sure I’m out of the wisdom and enlightened inexperience of youth, loop (basically, a combination of all of the foregoing loops, plus more). Hell, it’s really disappointing to realize how much less I know day by day—over the last 30 years, since the hubris of my 20s—as I rack up more experience in terms of days on planet, relationships of all sorts, starting businesses and actually making a profit last 3 businesses in a row after those first 2 failures during those cocksure 20s (at a tuition cost of $50k), managing employees (including many 20-somethings far wiser than I, naturally), etc.
If I only knew now what I knew back then… But it’s very difficult to stay in THE loop when with every passing day, more and more loops of all various kinds, circumstances, and contexts present themselves to me. Life is just so damn certain with only one loop: THE loop.
“All the sanguine guesswork of youth is there, and the silliness; all the novelty of being alive and impressed by the urgency of tremendous trivialities.” ― Siegfried Sassoon