I was recently contact by a friend (looks 20-something—always gets carded) whom I originally met IRL via all the Original Ancestral goings on, my blog, etc., and who’s been a longtime reader.

AHS11 Pre Symposium Get Together at Aaron Blaisdell’s Home
We last met for lunch last spring at the kitchen of what’s now Mission Heirloom Garden Cafe in Berkeley.
“J,” as I’ll call her, is smart & attractive. She’s never experienced any of the metabolic dysfunction so many of us old farters have. She’s lucky, because she and her offspring never will.
A few days back I got a communiqué from her, saying she had a weird favor to ask, but without actually asking it. I told her to ask away, so turns out she was wondering if I knew any young cool guys—with long term serious views and independent liberty minds—that I might be able to introduce to her. I actually did have a such someone in mind, but he’s “off the market.” Chewing on the [t]ask, I proposed doing up this post, fully expecting her to to let me off the hook, say thanks, but maybe not. But, she’s a bold one, “J” is, and so here we go. Men: do you like bold, smart, attractive women? …I thought not. So close this browser tab now. Read no further.
…I should add that I would not do this for just anyone and certainly not everyone, or even anyone other, so I beg of you not to ask. “J” is a special sort of young person to me, with a mind and shared values that motivated me to see what I could do about helping her.
So, who is she, and what’s she all about?
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She’s a little bit nerdy (okay, a lot) and a little bit rock n’ roll; kind-hearted, family-oriented, driven, constantly curious, and seeking a parter for life.
A little Settlers of Catan; a lot of rock climbing
A glass of wine; a hike up the mountain
XKCD, UAVs, A’s, C’s, G’s, and T’s.
Adventure travel to Patagonia or the Transiberian railway anyone?
Fiscally conservative, alt currency systems, competitive governments
Just no karaoke please
Foods delicious and paleo-ish; swing and blues dancing
Quantified Self; learn to surf
Nap anywhere; camp anywhere
Love and live in San Francisco
Make the world a safer, kinder place, with technology!
…She graduated from a top university but her real learning started after, as her career took her from policy, to politics, to media, to biotech, and now web development.
In her heart she’s a West Coast gal (comfortable in the cold waters of Northern California—open water swimming FTW) and up in the mountains skiing and backpacking. She’s open to considering a move to other parts of the country (PDX, Austin, etc.) or other countries: for the right guy.
She’s sorta bilingual—English & Chinese (Mandarin & Cantonese)—and loves getting to know other languages and cultures (svenska, francais, etc.) whilst traveling.
Family for her is a team where they all support and respect each other as individuals. Everyone is to be encouraged in their curiosity, to pursue their own interests…with parents being cheerleaders, soft shoulders to cry on, and advisors.
Her top 3 must-haves:
- A good man: morals, kind heart, patience, and humility.
- A curious man: he wants to explore depths of the the worlds there’s so much to learn about, outwardly and inwardly.
- A family man: he wants to create a model that expresses all of these values. Hopefully, supportive of unschooling.
Additional areas: chemistry/attraction (tbd IRL!). Loves to be outdoors, likes building things, and can make me laugh (and vice-versa).
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Ok, here’s the procedure. You could reply in comments and I can get her an email to hit if she wishes (provided you enter a working one in the field). Alternatively, you can hit my About Page and email something of a “profile” along with whatever contact info you like, for me to forward. Feel free to include Skype info. Both should consider getting on 2-way video ASAP.
Do I need to say it: please be nice. This is a friend of mine and I’m doing her a favor. If you can’t respect any of that in comments, comment is summarily deleted. Also, please have some rational perspective. You can see that she’s out of college, done a few things, never been settled, and is ready to settle down. You should not be interested in steering her path, but do consider her if you’re on a similar path (college or not—life experience may count more, you unschooled, you!) with similar exhilarations, passions, frustrations, impatience, disappointments.
Hi Richard,
First of all: Not a candidate (I’m in The Netherlands, for starters)
Although I’ve been following your website (as well as most of your advice) this is the first time I respond, because this post just seem too joyful. Especially in the light of most of your other posts that focus on society at large. You, helping out a friend like that on a platform such as your blog, that’s sweet.
Simply put, it made me smile, so thanks man!
Best of luck to your friend. I hope she finds the man she’s actively looking for.
The post is now updated with photos.
I have also deleted all comments that are not exactly specific to, or celebratory of the [t]ask.
I know a lot of “svenska” but I am not a hiker :(
‘J’ you are really beautiful and you sound a really interesting person – good luck with your search for a partner – he will be a jolly lucky man.
You had me at unschooling!
Not in the market myself but happy to play wingman (or catan) in Berkeley or in Austin at PaleoFX
I have a brother in San Diego who is amazing…I’ll have to check with him.