Uncover the ancient elixir that’s been hiding in plain sight, powering both mind and muscles through an unexpected journey from indulgence to discipline This is an exciting story to tell because it’s so profound, and at the same time, something that’s been under my nose for as long as I can remember. So, let’s dive……...Read More
— All predictions by know-nothings of my eventual demise have been stupidly wrong Intro I was tooling around with Midjourney AI yesterday just tossing in weird ideas and that’s one of the images it came up with for the prompt /imagine [free speech as a euphemism for approved speech] and I think it’s one of……...Read More
— And For Me, It Was Easy This is the modern, internet-era manifestation of an age-old characteristic of humans—when, at times, being on their best behavior. Everybody has seen it. Everybody has done it. In times past, it was the telephone and before that, it was a personal visit; I’m sure. It’s an imperative sometimes;……...Read More
— Know The Terrain, Understand It, Then Fix It First. Only Then Quit Boozing Easily. This post kicks off yet another multi-post series. You can scroll midway down on the homepage to peruse the 8 or so other past and present multi-post series I’ve published going back to 2013. The reason for this series is……...Read More
— Rather, It's About Time...
This occured to me as I was making my list of what to cover in Todoist, a fantastic new app I'm using to keep track of almost literally everything. More on that later.
So this was a rather hefty milestone...to make it 3 months with zero booze, not even a whiff or sniff. And as I have emphasized over and over: it has been effortlessly easy and I mean Effortlessly. Easy. I shit you not and my cachet here over many years is that I don't fucking lie to you.
Read the damn testimonials, some by folks who've been readers for over 10 years.
This affirmation I make is not the typical hyperbolic, lying bullshit that's 99% of marketing on the internet these days. I don't blame you for being skeptical...jaded, even. I really get head-shaking fucking tired of it myself and even more, that it apparently still works, why so many marketers operate like that.
Can nobody just do a straight-up, take-it-or-leave-it, no-hard-feelings offer and deal, anymore?
The more I contemplated and considered how I would present this 3 months in the can—both here in writing and in the video below—I became increasingly uncomfortable with being in any way proud, triumphant, exemplary, et al.
Instead, I had feelings of thankfulness that I'd apparently stumbled into a "method" of my own dumb-luck design...only to gain awareness of it in retrospect.
Perhaps that's why the location to do the video popped into my head and I immediately knew that yes, that's the only place to do it. Then as icing, I got cooperative weather (though I got soaked and chilled to the bone on the drive back).
No, this isn't about any virtue-signaling religious or spiritual experience as I explain in the video. Rather, it's simply a place that symbolizes socially-shared values so deep and ingrained that appreciation for the fortune of having them rather than not transcends many differences between us.
The List of Topics
- Set yourself up right
- Get calmer and cool
- Dump go-nowhere shit
- Started cooking again, a LOT
- Organizing out the ass - Todoist
- Nothing to be proud of
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— I seem to be undergoing a transition of sorts from where initially, alcohol cessation was all about the ways and means of getting it done—arriving at that point of no return—to now, increasingly, towards a more observant and deliberative consideration.
Kind of like: the chicken or the egg; what comes first? Do you get plastered because life sucks and it's an effective acute-pain reliever for that; or, is it that you typically drink for a multitude of reasons (or excuses), it eventually gets out of hand, and then proceeds to 'suck' up your life to the point that alcohol becomes a veritable coping requirement?
"Oh, boy...I could really use a drink."
...Or is it both, since the real answer to the question about chickens and eggs is that there's not the one, without the other. They're inexorably integrated, inseparable.
But still...I can wax philosophically or psychologically all I want, but it all has to meet a single criterion for me:
Does this nugget or tidbit or realization or actualization or idea or aha moment...bring someone to the Easy Place? Because let's face it: you're probably not going to brute force this thing to success. If it sucks, then it's likely going to get suckier and the suckier it gets, the more likely you are to fail.
...But fear ye not!
...That failure can be "magically transformed" into success, see? All you have to do on the back-end of failure is float the notion that it was just a test to show that you actually can abstain and now the test is over.
See? "I can quit anytime I want!"
...Though I've surprisingly not faced this [what would be] understandable criticism anywhere, it nonetheless nags at me a little. What am I doing, essentially creating what purports to be an authoritative gospel for kicking the bottle when I've been at it such a short time?
It smacks of unbridled exuberance—like when you're a kid and had your first beer. Or, you've discovered a hammer and so now, everything is a nail.
But that's just me and has always been me. Once I really get into something I take it up with a very rapid gusto so I can master the essentials, which is a process of shit-canning most of what's out there, leaving only the valid stuff. That's why most stuff is easier than it looks—or is purported to be by those seeking your money. They want you to think it's hard. Not to worry. They're here to help.
Those with the most just and valid reasons to ask you for compensation are those who are constantly simplifying, clarifying, and deconstructing for ease of implementation and better chances of success. Others continually complicate, obfuscate, qualify, manufacture exceptions, and issue rules that are self-serving, requiring endless guidance and management.
C'mon, look how simple I make shit: don't [eat, drink, or do X] too much, too often. What's amazing is how damn difficult it is to get out a simple message like that, undercutting all the abject bullshit. It's because it's perceived to be obvious, so of little value. Ironic, that, isn't it?
In most things being touted and marketed, "simple steps to..." are never simple. Rather, they are intentionally near to impossible. But all that will be laid out in the next release, at a good price...and so on.
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You won't believe how pretty Sureerat is at the age of 41. "41?" you'll ask. "No way!" you'll exclaim.
...It's a new thing since my definitive breakup a couple of weeks ago. We met last Saturday and sort of hit it off. It was outside on the patio of WeCafe, a place she really likes...there being several locations on the island. I chat up pretty girls all the time—daily, and any hesitation being long gone from me—and in no time we were sharing a table. I mentioned that the previous evening I'd been to an opening party at Club House, the former Stoned Crab Pub sports bar. The landlord was unwilling to renew the lease, so they did it twice as big and better in a new and better location. About 36 screens, streaming anything you can think of (soccer, rugby, cricket, Oz football, badminton comps, snooker comps, tennis, table tennis comps, boxing, MMA, F1, and even NFL Full Access).
She hands me the keys to her car, we head over, share a slice of pecan pie, then head back to We where I'd left my motorbike. Before parting, I mentioned that I'm a bit of a "tuber" (what Thais call us) and would be shooting a video, weather permitting, at Nai Harn Beach the next day.
"Want to watch?" I ask.
...She shows up at my place about 13.00—an hour early!!!—and we hop in her car, go to JeePhueng Phochana and Steak House, a tiny hole in the wall by Thai folks who serve only farang food; that's amazing food at even more amazing low prices.
...And then we head over to do the video, her pretty face on display.
Since then, she invited me to dinner last night at the amazing Thai seafood restaurant, KanEang. In return, I popped over to her house this afternoon to do a bit of handyman work she needed. She's come home during lunch, bringing shrimp pad Thai and fresh pink pomelo fruit.
Once I'd taken care of her home-repair issues with relative ease, she says, "I thought you could only work on computers!"
Items Covered In The 3-Weeks of Ridiculously Easy No-Alcohol Progression; 7-min video:
- Sureerat's introduction, and how she really has her life together as a single mom of two (details in the video)
- Declaration once again as to how easy this is, along with the implication that I haven't really nailed down the total why of the ease this time around
- Then an explanation of exactly how it's easy this time, the one secret element I hadn't yet integrated
I've been saying environment, environment, environment as it seemed obvious—the tropical paradise and all, full social life, etc.
But something was just missing from that incomplete explanation; but you'll need to watch the 7-minute video to know exactly what it is and how you can immediately understand how to avail and advantage yourself in many areas of struggle. I'll also toss in a couple of pictures of the pretty and adorable Sureerat.Read More
Been there done that.
Didn't work for me.
These are the things we tell ourselves when we haven't gotten it right and need an excuse to stop trying.
Practice makes perfect?
I'd rather say that experience teaches us lessons and with those lessons we can do better. Success isn't about getting everything right, it's about getting better so that enough things go right that momentum takes over.
I don't want to spoil the video, so I'll stop about right here. Please visit the channel and subscribe. It's really helping boost everything.Read More
It's actually day 10 at the time of this writing, but the video was recorded some hours after completing the absolute ease of the first week—effortless compared to previous excursions down this path. I've been contemplating all of the elements that contribute to this, some of which are mentioned. A glaring one that has not been mentioned but will be outlined at the 2-week report.
Doing several of these videos over the last week, as I have said within them, is that they're my equivalent of "going to a meeting."
For those just joining in, this all began over frustration of having zero appetite for a long time, where it was a chore to eat and had it not been required, I'd have been happy to just eat nothing:
I don’t like food anymore (with video)
After input and thinking on it, I decided to try the most obvious thing: dump the alcohol and add the gym...check. Here's the posts with videos I did during that first week.
- Drop Alcohol and Work Out to Cure Loss of Appetite
- Update on my Abstaining from Alcohol to Cure Loss of Appetite
- “Alcoholic” is a meaningless, stigmatizing term serving moneyed interests
- My Totally Unconventional Alcohol Abstention Method That Defies Experts
...By day 3 of the first week, I was getting my appetite back. I posted some food pics in #2, above. Well, here's 8 more of them, then the video.Read More
A pretty short introduction to this one because I don't want any spoilers.
In other words, if you can't bother to watch the interesting 15-min video, then you get squat for this one. Sorry not sorry.
That said, it is a teentsy bit taxing to watch. I shot it yesterday at the Ya Nui beach, right up against the surf, with more than a light breeze.Read More
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It's only 4 days in, but as I explain in the video, I've done this rodeo before but this time is remarkably different—a cinch. I explain in the video just why that most likely is, and it may offer good clues to those considering a trial run or a permanent thing. The first few days is the hardest. This time, it's just not hard at all.
And my approach is remarkably unconventional. So much so that the "experts" would likely tell you to never do this, especially the first few days.
I discuss my mental attitude and focus keeping me on track, accountable to myself. Producing these updates will keep me accountable to my audience.
I discuss my energy, alertness, and refound boldness and gusto. I tell a cool story about a stone-cold sober motorcycle ride from 8pm to midnight last night in my cafe racer—through winding roads, hills, and valleys.
For the premium portion below, I'll show the food pics on day 3 and now, day 4, and what it means for my appetite problem. I also discuss in detail the restaurant they come from and the reason for price disparity. I addition to those three pics, there's one of a quaint little steakhouse (chicken and pork) with only 4 tables that I go to almost every day (insane prices!). Plus, there may be a lasting benefit to having had the appetite problem. And more.
I'm going to do most of my videos this way from here out. You're welcome to just watch the video, but the behind the scenes stuff, additional tidbits not in the video, elaboration—all the good writing content stuff will be premium. Keep in mind, please, that when you come her and enjoy an add-free experience, no pop-ups, no annoying shit in your face all the time, the paying members are providing that to you. They are also paying for the hosting which isn't cheap, because there is no ad revenue.
So give 'em a little nod for paying for your better experience.Read More
I began digging into this loss of appetite thing that I previously posted about. Good idea to check out that post and watch the video as a prerequisite to this.
With suggestions from a couple of kind folks I began digging. That turned up a lot of possibilities but the ones that seemed the easiest to implement were dropping alcohol and working out, then see if the appetite begins to return.
So, I made a video about all of it.
Below, for members, I'm adding adding premium content that includes a how it's going 2 days in. The focus is on the small positive things you can notice within a day of stopping and they build and get even better. This, provided you're one who drinks too much, too often, and on a near daily basis.
I also put up an embed of the video and a food pick from a meal just a bit ago. Oh, and a source for 50 of those before and after pics of folks who stopped. Absolutely amazing.Read More
I'm jumping ahead by a video. I've recently been doing a lot of videos in order to boost my YouTube Channel into the monetization realm, which is where they share their ad revenue. Getting there requires subscribers and watch hours. If you'd like to help a guy out, subscribe to my channel and watch my videos...or at least the ones that look like you might want to check out. Everything counts, so even if you watch for only a few minutes, it's all chalked up. Doesn't matter how you watch in terms of mobile, on YouTube, or embed. Liking and sharing is a bonus. Thank you.
I'm jumping ahead and over the one I had planned for the day because I want to put it out there immediately, owing to my audience being so food and diet centric still.
I don't want to do too many spoilers, but I can expound upon the subject matter. For a good while I have lost the basic desire for food—a desire all of us are familiar with. Sometimes, I'm hungry as hell but dread having to eat and I often put it off and put it off. I've lost count of the times I choked something down because I know I need the protein and micro-nutrition.
One 2nd to last thing. In the video, I recount being not too desirous of the food offerings spread out at 2 birthday parties I attended last night. I named 2 exceptions at the 2nd one: the plain fried rice and watermelon. I forgot to mention the exception at the first one: baked potatoes, cut in half, then infused slightly with garlic butter. If I had it to do over again, I'd have just had 4 halves instead of 1, dispensed with everything else.
Finally, here's the link to the CCTV footage of me being knocked out cold which could be relevant, or not. I don't know.Read More