Facebook Sent Me To Bed Without Any Dinner

Not going to make a big deal about this because frankly, I’ve been considering dumping all Facebook for a while.

And so, I just did that. I just deleted (“deactivated” is the best you can do) my personal profile with its 30 friends (I modeled an HG society for friends. They were actually friends. I knew every single one in person) and 1100 followers who can see and comment on my public posts. I dumped the FTA Page with its 5,000 “Likes” and the Page I recently created—The Daily Fucktard—where I posted my most outrageous stuff for the 200 or so folks who like it straight up, that way.

I rant a lot on all of them, but had endeavored to engage in social segregation…such that folks who followed my personal profile got most of everything, the folks on the FTA Page got only the generally paleo related stuff (if a rant, a paleo rant) and those on TDF got me at my very worst because that’s what they want.

But Facebook, apparently, has a single set of “community standards” encompassing 1.2 billion people. It’s the India of the Internet and just as dysfunctional, socially.

…If you must know, it wasn’t about any of the cop rants I do…State…religion…anything like that I’ve ragged on hundreds of times in as many posts.

Nope, I made fun of some email I got about some “Gynecological Awareness Week.”

I found it odd that there needs to be a week for men to be “aware” of pussy. They took down the post and suspended me from doing anything but look at my three outlets for 24 hours. In other words, others could post, like, comment, whatever, and I could do none of that on my “own” outlets. So, guess who owns them?

…You can find me at this blog, and in its comments. Incidentally, I don’t do much on Twitarded anymore, either.

I own the data here (I use none of those blogging services—I pay for a vanilla server), and the community standards are my own for the small community I tend to have a handle on.

If you are disappointed, think of the bright side. I will now spend zero effort on Facebook. Moreover, think on yourself. What might you gain if you were to dump Facebook and what, by comparison, would you lose? The answer is different for everyone, and that’s the point.

In the end, Facebook costs me way more than I ever got from it, and that includes even several thousand dollars in ads over the years I’ve paid them. Time and attention are my most valuable assets. I’ve just eliminated enormous overhead.

…And so, if you want doggie pics from me, you’ll just have to check here when I decide to put them up. Here’s my two, Scout and Nuke, plus my mom & dad’s Kobe, the Shitsu; and my brother’s, Drae, a lab/pit mix who’s the world’s biggest sweetheart.

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Richard Nikoley Has Duck Breast Jerky!

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  1. Beans McGrady on September 26, 2014 at 14:30

    Congrats. People started to bug me about joining facebook over ten years ago(never did).
    Any worthwhile content always makes it to me via email or a blog, and I have an excuse for not knowing about a party I wasn’t going to go to anyway.

  2. Daniel on September 26, 2014 at 15:09

    I just went through a similar exorcism of my facebook account. I have some overseas friends I like to stay in touch with so didn’t delete it completely but just a handful of people now that I may in fact keep in touch with.

    But one thing i’ve noticed is how the landscape has changed so much with blogs. When I had ‘darwinstable’ back in the day (2009) it was mainly blogging, and reading other peoples blogs, and that is how you built your community and followers. Since starting this latest one I have realised just how so much of this is driven by social media now. It seems like so much effort! Not that I care so much these days, but can you see any downsides to dropping the social media Richard?

    • Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 15:27

      “can you see any downsides to dropping the social media Richard?”

      I’d be a fool if I didn’t. There are people who will only engage with me on those terms. Do I care? Yes. Does it matter? Yea. In the long term? Well, that depends upon what I do between now and the Final Judgment (Accounting, for atheists).

      I take myself plenty seriously because if I don’t, who will?

      But while I’ve always taken my blog writing seriously, I never took the social stuff very seriously. I always looked upon it as a fishing endeavor; catch a serious mind now & then. It has been very dissapointing because they don’t convert (to bring competent writers of comments on blogs). Like never. Shallow, lazy, or they can’t write well and they feel like superstars on Facebook or 140 characters, which is an epidemic.

      Facebook and Twitter give those too incompetent to express themselves in written word, an outlet.

      Thus, they’re commies. :)

    • Daniel on September 27, 2014 at 00:39

      I tend to agree.

  3. Jon+McRae on September 26, 2014 at 15:11

    Just got blocked on FB from a “Friend”, Richard you have shown that I don’t need to be valued by “fucktards” to have value. Keep shining the light it takes some of us longer then others.

  4. gabkad on September 26, 2014 at 15:35

    Mostly I just use email. That’s plenty too much. I have twitter account and facebook. Just don’t use them. And having no cellphone (“OMG, you don’t have a cellphone????!!” “EXCUSE ME. What’s the deal here? Would you talk like that to someone without arms?”)

    LinkdIn is asinine too. I don’t remember my password and don’t want to either.

    • Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 15:45

      LinkedIn is tomorrow. 100% overhead, zero return.

      Even worse than FB, but I’ve never spent much time there.

    • Marc on September 27, 2014 at 09:47

      Respectfully disagree.

      Linked has kept my pipeline and deals rocking and rolling. Its still pretty heavy in corporate.


    • Richard Nikoley on September 27, 2014 at 10:03

      I know folks for whom it has been helpful. Also, decent place to have an “extensive business card” for anyone you do business with or prospective business.

      But, it’s primarily for the corp world, which is far removed from me and hopefully always will be. Accordingly, it has really only ever been a pain in the ass for me.

    • Marc on September 27, 2014 at 10:13

      I hear ya!

      Im getting there brother…a few more years.
      Been smart, charted my own course, never competed with the joneses….

      As Stuart Wilde said ” the trick to money is having some”

      Enjoy the doggies, mine laying at my feet.

  5. Geoffrey on September 26, 2014 at 15:53

    I’ve been “off” Facebook now for over 8 weeks, I became so sick of all the self-promotion, the “look at me and how wonderful my life is, how big my house is, how cute my kids are…” and not to mention the whole “like” thing. Very tired site, and I don’t miss it at all.

    • Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 16:03


      It’s as simple as accounting for lazy. This blog will be 11 years old in a month and simple division means that I have put up a post per day over 11 years and none of them are chek-ins with ridiculous duck-face and man-tilted-head photos.

      Fuck! What did we suborn!? :)

  6. MAS on September 26, 2014 at 16:19

    Came to the same conclusion for my blog page on FB last year, but for different reasons.


    • Richard Nikoley on September 27, 2014 at 08:47


      I actually saw that post and agree with all your reasons. This was the final straw. I mean, it’s supposedly MY wall, and MY two pages. While others could comment, like the comments of others, etc, I was unable to do either, or even delete a post, block a user, etc. Beyond the pale.

      Moreover, when you think about it, why provide a place for your readers to interact, that creates content for Facebook, and not you, when you provide the same thing on your blog in the comments section, and where any advantage of that create content accrues to you?

      I also just deleted my LinkedIn Profile. I’ll keep the Google+ for now.

    • Bret on September 27, 2014 at 09:28

      This regulation of speech shows me that FB has gotten too big and too successful. Now it is settling into its comfy club of corporatism and statism (redundant words — there is almost no difference), which means it now works in league with government goons whose stated mission is to “protect” everybody.

      That means FB is no longer fun, exciting, or fulfilling in any way. It’s just mediocre. And it is only going to get worse, until the herd moves on to something better. As far as I am concerned, it is the Bank of America of social media.

  7. Harriet on September 26, 2014 at 16:49

    I only stay on FB because that is how I know where my son is as he jets around the world on a regular basis. It also lets me know what is happening to my sisters, one very leftie, one very radical. Apart from that its a waste of time. I’m really not interested in some vague acquaintance’s latest dinner or request to join them in some online game. Boring.

  8. Corey on September 26, 2014 at 16:51

    Richard, I love your site, you’re endlessly entertaining and informative. I’m early forties, and have never, ever posted one thing on Facebook. What a complete time sink that site is. It has completely perverted the meaning of the word “friend.” My friends are people I interact with in person. I only signed on to Facebook one time, and that was because it was the exclusive domain of a discussion group that I needed to access for my wife’s health issues. Fortunately, I think (and hope) that within 2-3 years Facebook will go the way of Myspace. Current P/E is 83? Yeah, right.

    Never ever posted on Twitter. I created a profile on Linkedin a hundred years ago, and have never been back. That site is merely Facebook for people who think they’re successful (some may be).

    The problem with all of these social media outlets is that they give voices to people who truly have nothing useful to say. That, and they also have created a pervasive narcissism in society – everybody truly thinks he’s important, when really most people are total zeroes. I wish we could put this whole social media genie back into the bottle.

    • Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 18:19


      “The problem with all of these social media outlets is that they give voices to people who truly have nothing useful to say. That, and they also have created a pervasive narcissism in society – everybody truly thinks he’s important, when really most people are total zeroes. I wish we could put this whole social media genie back into the bottle.”

      I have always seen this but was prepard to give it some time to see if real work would overcome duck face, to go wide encomaping metaphor.

      It does neither.

      It’s just banal.

      I’m reminded of Seven (cudos to anyone who gets the ref).

      I have blogged since Novemebrr of 2003 and there are about 4,000 posts. Works out to about a post per day, every fucking day. And most are 1000+ words.

      Suppose I could have pretended, and took a selfie. Tagged it. Located it.

    • Dr. Curmudgeon Gee on October 10, 2014 at 20:49

      actually i got a few calls from head hunters via linkedin

      but it is just one of the way to make (career) connections

      i also only connect to people i know.
      some morons want to connect & don’t even bother to introduce themselves. i just ignore these retarded imbeciles

      i also only give thump-up to a person’s skill when i know & mean it.

  9. Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 18:06

    Thanks for the very expected comments so far. That’s no dis, that’s simply recognition that I reached my own level of outrage and it resonates with some for same or other reasons. No need for meaningless distinctions.

    Anyway, I put up and addendum to the post and it has a pic with 4 doggies.

    Look how cool I am. :)

  10. Wade on September 26, 2014 at 18:33

    Bravo! I deleted my Facebook page a couple of years ago. I’d take this page over the social media commie shit any day.

    If you want to really do a permanent delete, not a deactivate, check out the link below. I found it satisfying knowing there’s no return to that shithole.


  11. Gina on September 26, 2014 at 20:07

    Facebook is great for charities (e.g. announcing fundraisers, finding foster homes for dogs and cats, recruiting volunteers etc.) and for things like updating multiple people on the status of someone who’s in hospital. It’s usefulness has just been undermined by narcissists and morons. I have occasionally accepted a friend request that was ill-advised and gotten a few selfies and other nonsense, but they were easy enough to stop.

    • Richard Nikoley on September 26, 2014 at 20:39

      “accepted a friend request that was ill-advised and gotten a few selfies and other nonsense, but they were easy enough to stop.”

      I did what everyone did at first. Had hundreds of “friends.”

      But they aren’t unless you’re so shallow that you don’t even know what a friend is.

      Everyone lives on so many levels of euphemism now, it’s unbelievable to me. Friends. Oh, indeed. But, I do take count that when a certain level of outrage is reached with me, I always pull the plug. When I do, it’s irrevocable.

    • Gina on September 26, 2014 at 21:17

      I doubt you’ll miss it. I think anyone who would find it hard to get off of Facebook would be better off without it.

      But, if you find a lost doggie, a throwaway account might come in handy. It is remarkable for that sort of thing.

    • Dr. Curmudgeon Gee on October 10, 2014 at 21:07

      people who know me post photos about me on FB. & i’m barred from seeing them.
      is that fair?

  12. yien on September 26, 2014 at 22:24

    A key limit is Dunbar’s number, particularly in relation to band society (30-50). iirc, Marlowe wrote that once a Hadza group hits this number they naturally split up. Regardless, the trend seems to be; away from large public networks, and, towards private smaller groups. Although, a “natural” HG group number may need to be balanced with “strength of weak ties” theory, it’s unlikely fb will survive long enough to provide this.

  13. Daniel on September 27, 2014 at 01:51

    Here you go Richard – http://techcrunch.com/2014/09/25/ello-ello-new-no-ads-social-network-ello-is-blowing-up-right-now/?ncid=fb&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=fb&utm_content=FaceBook

    Looks right up your ally. The complete opposite of facebook. And they even said they will be “Ad free and porn friendly”. lol.

  14. Jesrad on September 27, 2014 at 02:19

    “the India of the Internet and just as dysfunctional, socially.”

    Hammer -> nail.head

    I’ve never registered on Facebook, I don’t read it, and I criticize it anytime someone mentions it to me, because it is one of the pillars of this pervasive, 24/7 attention-grabbing (and mind-eroding), emotionally-distressing “news” treadmill that is already destroying other media (TV, radio, press…).
    That it also enforces stupid PC “sensitivity training” in disguise, is just the last nail in the coffin for this webapp.

  15. JWJones on September 27, 2014 at 07:00

    I just returned to FB after deleting my account 2 years ago. I still find it distasteful, but I wanted to keep in touch with people I met at a personal development workshop, and also to help network for our business. There is an easy way to delete your account rather than just deactivate it:

    • Richard Nikoley on September 27, 2014 at 11:59

      Thanks JW. I’ll do that tomorrow. I reactivated my profile and Pages just for the day and put up their recommended sign off, along with a link to this blog.

      Don’t see myself going back. I prefer putting all my effort into this blog. I already feel better.

  16. Pauline on September 27, 2014 at 08:29

    I de-activated my Facebook account around early June. It was very liberating as I realised the sense of connectedness I had from it was not based in real life. It forced me to go out and make connections in real time and to go back to my first love, reading. It also made me want to walk in nature more. I have since returned but the break from it changed something, I can take it or leave it. I sometimes de-activate my account for periods of time, its like switching your phone off. You feel at once more your self and free from the need to compare your experiences with any one else. You enter your own life and pursue your own dreams.

  17. FrenchFry on September 27, 2014 at 09:22

    Never used it, I am an old school kind of guy, I talk to people rather face to face or I don’t, save for real blogs ;)

  18. Tom B on September 27, 2014 at 09:30

    If you want to check out alternative social network site that doesn’t have ‘community standards’ that aren’t standards or communal there is an open source social network called ‘Diaspora*’ (http://diasporafoundation.org) and you could join any of the free pods out there and have a go.

  19. kayumochi on September 27, 2014 at 10:14

    FB’s useful functions include being able to stay in touch and see what is going on with friends and acquaintances who now are thousands of miles away and whom in olden days would have dropped from my life completely. I like that. The rest of FB is mostly a time-suck. Linkedin is almost as bad.

    • Bret on September 27, 2014 at 10:49

      I agree, kayumochi. I have old college and work friends that I can stay in touch with via FB that I wouldn’t really be able to otherwise. Whether via private message, making fun of them on their “status” updates, etc.

      I also post the occasional pictures of me and the family (mostly for the sake of my own extended family being able to see them), but that’s as far as my participation in the messy social/cyber masturbation goes.

  20. Resurgent on September 27, 2014 at 10:37

    Well done Richard..!!

    The only reason I would log-in to FB was to look at the stuff you were posting. I had a total of 9 friends, mostly family, whom I did not need to follow on FB.

    The social media genie is not going back into the bottle anytime soon. I think, though, it will help separate the wheat from the chaff.

    Looking forward to your increased presence on the blog.
    I have poured me a single malt to that.


    • Bret on September 27, 2014 at 10:52

      It’s 10:52 a.m. at my house. But I don’t want Resurgent drinking alone. Got some tequila calling my name.

      To the flipping off of social media. Cheers, fuckfaces!

  21. Regina on September 27, 2014 at 10:44

    Drae looks so adorable.

    Cheers, Regina

  22. Karl Breckenridge on September 27, 2014 at 14:11

    thanks for posting – I’m aboard Cheers, Breck!

  23. baschwar on September 27, 2014 at 17:34

    Glad I caught your last post on FB… subscribed… I think 2x now! :)

  24. pzo on September 28, 2014 at 05:03

    Wow, all the observations above and yours, so right on! A platform for morons and narcissists, absolutely. As pointed out, I have too much email already, those are my FRIENDS and family.

    I have a FB account only because there are a few sites that permit a commenter to do so via a social media login. My only posting is along the lines of “I don’t do FB, I don’t check in. If you want to contact me, my email address such and such.” Still and yet, some people leave comments expecting a response. Well, there’s that moron factor, isn’t it? At least one ex-gf, I didn’t date her for her brains, rather her huge breasts. How shallow of me!

    Next thing I’ll need a “Mammary Awareness Week,” I guess. NOT. That you got shut down for pointing out the obvious shows one how, well, fucktarded our society has become.

    pzo, Senior Certified Master Cynic and Curmudgeon.

  25. agatha on September 28, 2014 at 05:55

    Bravo Richard. Love the dogs.

  26. Luceo on September 29, 2014 at 08:08

    I never signed up for Facebook, and I never will. My wife has it and when I look at her feed it’s just endless inanity.

  27. John on September 29, 2014 at 12:41

    Dammit now I’m going to have to look up cop block and such articles on my own!

    Thanks for the time you put into Facebook. I always enjoyed seeing if you’d make any good links or rants.

  28. Regina on September 29, 2014 at 16:16

    The Mister and I went to the Lincoln Park Zoo (Chicago) on Saturday for my Bday. We live a short walk from it but had never walked through it on a weekend. SUV’s backed up for blocks trying to get into the $26 parking lot. So, the entire zoo was crammed with tribes of obese fucktards and obese children who were continuously eating, txting and fuckface-ing pix of themselves. The thickest mobs were at the crap food “cafes” for plates of churro and nachos with faux cheese goo and massive bright blue or red drinks. Every adult and every child was continuously eating. There were clusters in front of the animal enclosures but when we got up to them, we estimated that only 1 in 8 enclosures had any animal at in it. But nobody seemed to notice or care. The overpriced crap souvenir shops were bursting and every kid had a new stuffed wild animal, food and a selfie-phone. The zoo was crammed full of human zoo animals but had almost zero real animals. I asked a guide where the giraffes were and she said brightly: “you’re almost there; it’s the next enclosure on the right!” We got to it and it too was empty. I wanted to go back and hit her but I would have had to wade through the churning morbidly obese blob of zoo humans. When we left the grounds returning to urbanite chicago, it felt like we’d left an alternate reality. I’m not in suburbs often. Has it really gotten this bad? (urbanite hipsters suck for different reasons but geessh).

    • pzo on October 2, 2014 at 07:41

      Um, paragraphs? And this relates to FB how?

  29. Dr. Curmudgeon Gee on October 9, 2014 at 21:56

    good move but long overdue

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