I called Karen Pendergrass a cunt once. According to her it was twice, but who’s counting?
Last week at Paleo f(x), during the Saturday evening benefit party, she and I walked down the street, down to the Austin City Government dome-building to sit on the steps and have a slightly inebriated-induced Paleo smoke of American Spirit ciggies (no additives). This would have perhaps not been possible but for this bit of surprising news from Karen back in 2014.
Now, about that. Of course it told me that when I uttered my missives previously, I did so in a sorting, time-saving maneuver, and not from checking into the girl. I really don’t care what others think or feel and if I’ve got them wrong, they sometimes find their way back to me; and conversely, I will make endeavors to go back to people I admire when I think they got me wrong. But in this case, Karen simply acknowledged my contribution, I found it satisfying, she said go ahead and blog it, end of it.
Then a party at Sisson’s house a couple of months ago and we met face-to-face, and she had her mom (whom I call her sister) in tow, and it was short, but cordial. Her “sister” is a kick, and gives you an insight into Karen herself. For example, jumping ahead, on last PFX day, I run into her “sister,” and ask where is Karen. Doesn’t know. She gives me her phone number and I text. Then we find her. She says to mom, “what, you’re giving out my phone number?” “Well, it’s on the bathroom wall,” replies mom. And Karen then makes a joke about that. Now, need I say more about cool relationship and cool mother/daughter?
Even more cool—and I’m getting to the personality stuff—is that she laughed in my face about me calling her a cunt on the Internet. Which, of course, is perfect. She added: “it was obviously not personal.” Wow, intelligent life form. Of course it wasn’t personal. How could it be? That requires levels of knowledge I had on nobody I used that jab with, and it’s an endless curiosity to me how it can roll off the backs of some and so adversely energize others, especially all the ones I didn’t call a cunt, including those pretending to be men, or closet trans, like Antonio Valladares or James “Body for Wife” Fell.
So cutting to the chase, she says, “Richard, you have to take the Myers-Briggs test. You’re ENTP.” What the hell is that (and I’ve been avoiding that bullshit for the two decades I’ve been aware of it)? Then we get back from our smoke break to see if we can get Robb Wolf away from the ubiquitous circle of surrounding fans. After photo-bombing one or two of the posed pics Robb was having with fans, she asks Robb. ENTP? He says maybe, or maybe ENTJ.
So I took the test, a 10-15 minute free version.
So when I did this yesterday at 16Personalities, and sent Karen the screen shot she insisted upon, I was like “there, satisfied,” and at the time had zero idea of any import of the thing whatsoever and she’s like “yea, nailed it,” and I’m thinking ok, but I don’t really get it, or why it’s important.
Then I began reading the psychoanalysis, and in particular, ENTP-A, purportedly my own deconstruction and I was floored; and on top of that, learned I’m 3 out of a hundred (3% of population), which explains even more to me and how so often, I can’t even relate to my own family because not a one of them are ENTP so far as I could tell and I have never known any who are.
So I ask you. Does any of this ring true, those who’ve been stuck reading me for years?
ENTP PERSONALITY (“THE DEBATER”)
Follow the path of the unsafe, independent thinker. Expose your ideas to the dangers of controversy. Speak your mind and fear less the label of ‘crack-pot’ than the stigma of conformity. And on issues that seem important to you, stand up and be counted at any cost. — Thomas J. Watson
The ENTP personality type is the ultimate devil’s advocate, thriving on the process of shredding arguments and beliefs and letting the ribbons drift in the wind for all to see. Unlike their more determined Judging (J) counterparts, ENTPs don’t do this because they are trying to achieve some deeper purpose or strategic goal, but for the simple reason that it’s fun. No one loves the process of mental sparring more than ENTPs, as it gives them a chance to exercise their effortlessly quick wit, broad accumulated knowledge base, and capacity for connecting disparate ideas to prove their points.
Playing the devil’s advocate helps people with the ENTP personality type to not only develop a better sense of others’ reasoning, but a better understanding of opposing ideas – since ENTPs are the ones arguing them.
This tactic shouldn’t be confused with the sort of mutual understanding Diplomats (NF) seek – ENTPs, like all Analyst (NT) personality types, are on a constant quest for knowledge, and what better way to gain it than to attack and defend an idea, from every angle, from every side?
There Are no Rules Here – We’re Trying to Accomplish Something!
Taking a certain pleasure in being the underdog, ENTPs enjoy the mental exercise found in questioning the prevailing mode of thought, making them irreplaceable in reworking existing systems or shaking things up and pushing them in clever new directions. However, they’ll be miserable managing the day-to-day mechanics of actually implementing their suggestions. ENTP personalities love to brainstorm and think big, but they will avoid getting caught doing the “grunt work” at all costs. ENTPs only make up about three percent of the population, which is just right, as it lets them create original ideas, then step back to let more numerous and fastidious personalities handle the logistics of implementation and maintenance.
ENTPs’ capacity for debate can be a vexing one – while often appreciated when it’s called for, it can fall painfully flat when they step on others’ toes by say, openly questioning their boss in a meeting, or picking apart everything their significant other says. This is further complicated by ENTPs’ unyielding honesty, as this type doesn’t mince words and cares little about being seen as sensitive or compassionate. Likeminded types get along well enough with people with the ENTP personality type, but more sensitive types, and society in general, are often conflict-averse, preferring feelings, comfort, and even white lies over unpleasant truths and hard rationality.
This frustrates ENTPs, and they find that their quarrelsome fun burns many bridges, oftentimes inadvertently, as they plow through others’ thresholds for having their beliefs questioned and their feelings brushed aside. Treating others as they’d be treated, ENTPs have little tolerance for being coddled, and dislike when people beat around the bush, especially when asking a favor. ENTP personalities find themselves respected for their vision, confidence, knowledge, and keen sense of humor, but often struggle to utilize these qualities as the basis for deeper friendships and romantic relationships.
Opportunity Is Missed Because It Looks Like Hard Work
ENTPs have a longer road than most in harnessing their natural abilities – their intellectual independence and free-form vision are tremendously valuable when they’re in charge, or at least have the ear of someone who is, but getting there can take a level of follow-through that ENTPs struggle with.
Once they’ve secured such a position, ENTPs need to remember that for their ideas to come to fruition, they will always depend on others to assemble the pieces – if they’ve spent more time “winning” arguments than they have building consensus, many ENTPs will find they simply don’t have the support necessary to be successful. Playing devil’s advocate so well, people with this personality type may find that the most complex and rewarding intellectual challenge is to understand a more sentimental perspective, and to argue consideration and compromise alongside logic and progress.
Well, on that last bit, I actually have done the entrepreneurial deal, ran it iron fist under velvet glove and was pretty uniformly appreciated by employees who I treated damn well with pay and vacation, health, and 401K benefits because I think far too damn highly of myself to do otherwise. Yes, I did all that because I selfishly cared about myself and perceptions on the ground about me and how I ran a business doing $3.5 million a year more than because of that leftist fucktarded “I care” lying bullshit any child can see through.
Now go fuck off.