Permanent Crisis Is The New Normal — Prosper Anyway #4 — What Others Think Of You Is None Of Your Business

Imagine if that image was photoshopped to depict an angel on one shoulder, a devil on the other. Still none of your business either way.

In this issue:

  • Both Praise and Condemnation are Motivated by Someone Else's Need or Desire to Influence You
  • The Context of Messages of Love and Hate
  • How I Deal With Haters
  • How I Deal With Lovers
  • If You Don't Have Haters You're Leaving Time and Money On The Table
  • What Is Prosperity?

Both Praise and Condemnation are Motivated by Someone Else's Need or Desire to Influence You

Because we're rather evolutionarily conditioned to eschew that which harms us and embrace that which benefits us—think volcano eruption vs. the sea off a tropical island teeming with fish—we tend to apply that widely in modern social life and interaction.

The haters irritate us, make us emotional; but don't also the lovers, just engendering an opposite, affirming emotion in us? What if you're full of shit, and while the haters might could have a better approach, they're generally right and your lovers are as fucked up as you? Now what?

Because of emotions both ways, you are closing yourself off from natural corrections of thought-worthy stuff while clamoring toward all that pets you like a domesticated animal rather than one who's wild and free.

It's because no matter what your position in anything—and irrespective of whether you are left, right, in the middle...conservative, liberal, leftist, or commie...Democrat, Republican, or Independent...producer or parasite...courageous or afraid...believer or atheist...sane or psycho—anyone usually gets some measure of love and hate. Our natural tendency is to embrace the former and eschew the latter.

But neither is any of your business.

This is an essential lesson.

What others think about you is none of your business.

Both sorts of emanations are based upon another's desire to get you to do something, be it to keep on doing what you're doing, change what you're doing, feel bad about what you're doing, or just go kill yourself.

Why do you reflexively assume that those showering love upon you are sane, right, and woke in the right way but that those who hate on you need their heads examined?

The mental state of both is none of your business. It's all external to you. Just because someone external to you showers you with love and praise, it does not make their heart of hearts your particular business to proclaim that it's in the right place.

You still don't know.

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Richard Nikoley

I started writing Free The Animal in late 2003 as just a little thing to try. 20 years later, turns out I've written over 5,000 posts. I blog what I wish...from diet, health, philosophy, politics, social antagonism, adventure travel, expat living, location and time independent—while you sleep— income by geoarbitrage, and food pics. I intended to travel the world "homeless," but the Covidiocy Panicdemic squashed that. I became an American expat living in Thailand. I celebrate the audacity and hubris to live by your own exclusive authority and take your own chances. ... I leave the toilet seat up. Read More

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