Secrets of the Male Porn Star

I might as well complete what I wrote in the last few paragraphs of yesterday’s post about hair on men and the question of whether size matters. I’ll answer that right off the bat: it does and it doesn’t. Bigger size confers some advantages, but if you don’t have that advantage, you can get along just fine.

Let’s unpack this. This isn’t going to be based on a bunch of scientific studies; it’s based on what I’ve gathered as an average-endowed white-guy with hundreds of women since I was 21 years old. I had a 20-year hiatus where I was with one woman only, so this spans from roughly 21 years old to 39 years old, and then from 59 years old to now.

It could be over 1,000. I lost count while standing combat officer of the watch on USS Reeves, at 278 “conquests.” That was in 1986. I hadn’t even visited Thailand yet by then, OMG. That was Korea, Japan, and the Philippines. A handful in USA.

But I’m no Wilt Chamberlain!

I tried to query scientific studies or evidence about this, but nothing, literally nothing, matched up with my own experience in actually talking with hundreds of women who had just quivered uncontrollably. When are women at their most honest? Right after having had an orgasm—feeling euphoric and willing to open up to me. I even tried using our resident chatbot Zon, and it was no help either. It was just yak-yak back. “Oh, you must understand, this is this and that is that.” All narrative fucking bullshit. It’s like nobody who writes the narratives actually gets laid, much. LOL.

So, I’m going to give you the straight skinny.

First off, let’s talk about female arousal. Understand this: women have every bit as perverted and vile a mind as you do, dudes…and I even wonder if it’s more—and she doesn’t even need to be a porn star.

Picture this scene very recently, if you dare. Two friends, both hot, my non-bi partners for 8 months now, now and then. One gets off watching the other furiously pleasure herself while on top with me. The other one likes to watch me give her friend a “facial.” Seriously depraved shit, right? They’re both the mothers of 3 very well-adjusted children, with zero evidence “down there” they ever had even one. It’s uncanny how intact Thai gals are in terms of vaginal damage. I’ve never seen it. Not once in hundreds, since 1986.

… If you’re not just sliding right in, you haven’t done your homework. You haven’t accomplished the necessary groundwork. If you do it right, she’ll be grabbing it and putting it in herself, and it will slide right in because she’s so naturally lubricated.

I don’t understand why people have to use all these lubricants. Let’s get this straight. You lubricate the rod and put it in, and if everything goes right, she’ll then finally become moist, and everything will go smoothly. But from a different perspective, that’s kind of like squeezing your non-erect penis into the vagina and then waiting for it to get hard because you’re already in there.

You see what I’m saying?

When does size matter? Well, the first thing to realize is that women aren’t so much visually aroused like men are. It’s more from their own mind’s eye, as it were. But there is a way that women can be visually aroused, and that’s from an erect penis. This is why there’s this propensity around the world now to send chicks these so-called dick pics. Almost uniformly, they’re condemned. But there’s something to that. When something is uniformly condemned rather than selectively condemned, you know something is up because it’s impossible for anything to be uniformly condemned. So, what is the lie?

I’ll tell you what the lie is. I have to preface this with a tongue-in-cheek reference, not to make light of a real crime, but I’m using the word “rape” colloquially. What I say is that women aren’t against rape per se; they are against unwanted rape. Guess what porn the Thai gals watch the most. Korean “rape” porn.

Taking that as the tongue-in-cheek reference that it is, let’s apply that to dick pics. Women are not going to respond positively to unsolicited dick pics, and here’s why: when they see it, they immediately think, “He’s aroused because he’s thinking of another girl or he’s watching porn,” or something like that.

To make a dick pic work for you, build context first. She needs to know that you’re thinking about her, that she arouses you, that she makes you horny. Then, when you send a dick pic to her, she takes it completely differently. And why? Because she knows that it’s about her. Women are totally selfish creatures sexually—they have to be. They know that you’re a hound dog, but she wants to know that you’re a hound dog for her.

If you’ve established the size of your member—whether through a dick pic or an in-person view—let’s be real: women do get more easily aroused by a bigger erect penis. Bigger is better. It creates a more potent image in the mind, however that psychological mapping works.

But that’s just the surface. Once past the initial arousal, it’s all about technique, longevity, firmness, and a myriad of other factors. A guy who falls short of average can still perfectly satisfy a woman once she’s aroused. The principal area where a big cock really makes a “measurable” (har har) difference is in the arousal stage; it just makes the initial work easier. But this is often offset later by the smaller guy who compensates with effort and skill.

It’s complicated. So don’t worry about it. I’ve heard this a million times from women: once they’re emotionally and physically engaged, size becomes irrelevant. As long as he can arouse her and get her off, that’s all that matters. Simple.

Plus, you all have tongues, and that’s all about technique, and not size.

Big cock confers an initial advantage. It’s mostly offset by being big-cock dumb and lazy, and chicks see through that soon enough. It’s the male equivalent of the archetypical dumb blonde.

I’m not and have never been much of a porn addict. I had the hidden Playboy magazines back in the early ’70s, stashed behind the pump house on my grandfather’s property. Actually, they had been pilfered from my grandfather’s own stash in his bathroom. But that was back when Playboy was an art form, and Hugh Hefner was a master of imagination.

Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you’ve seen porn on video now. People ask me about my time in Thailand, where I spent a total of about six months over six or seven visits from 1986 to 1991. They ask, “What’s changed?”

First, there were no phones back then. If you wanted to see a chick, you had to know where she worked—what bar—and get there before some other guy snatched her up. That’s how it worked. Otherwise, you simply paid her “bar fine” (compensation to the bar for lost income when she’s not selling drinks) for as many days as you wanted exclusivity. Honorariums are negotiated separately.

Now, everyone is on dating apps and messaging apps. Second, there were zero fat girls then and now they have the temerity to work in bars (not the Go-Go establishments, praise Jesus!). Zero. Third, they didn’t shave their pussies. Now they all do. I don’t get it, but they all do.

I chalk it up to pussified males who can’t handle real women and need pre-pubescent fantasy. Part of why the world is so fucked. Almost no more men. The first thing I ask any chick I’m seeing for any length of time regularly is to stop shaving. I have two of those in my revolving-door harem now. You know what I tell them? “When you all shave, you all look about the same. When you do not, everyone is a little bit different.” Seems to resonate. 100% success getting them to do that. Good news is, some of the youngest, late teens early 20s are rebellious and don’t shave like they’re “supposed to.” I look to my lucky stars when I stumble on that.

There’s a double-edged sword to this. Back in the day, if you hooked up with a girl from a bar who had recently come from the provinces, she could be quite shy—even at 19, 20, 21 years old. At that time, I was about 25. They quickly adapted, but initially, they were shy. Now, it’s completely different. All these girls watch porn on their phones.

You might get a shy-looking 18- or 20-year-old, and I’m 63 now. It gets going, and suddenly, she’s like a porn star. They know how to do everything you can imagine, and they’re willing to do it. They like doing it; they’re aroused by it. This is all part of societal evolution.

What are you going to do? Do you think this is the collapse of civilization? No, it’s just civilization adapting to technology and more knowledge. What it really means is that the idea of states and churches controlling women is completely gone. So you have to figure out other ways to motivate women to rein themselves in—because they’re quite dangerous (destroyers of men and civilizations)…but that’s a topic for another day.

What has always intrigued me about video pornography is the male element. Males are physiologically (and emotionally) one and done, so how do they manage to perform continuously? You might chalk it up to editing, but I delved deeper and figured it out. This realization came to me some months ago.

Let me back up. When I was young, visiting the Philippines a million times, I tried having two girls at the same time a few times, who wouldn’t? It turned out to be nothing like porn videos. Absolutely not. Then, just some months ago, one girl I was with suggested she bring her friend along for the next time. I was skeptical, having been less than wowed by this scenario before. But she brought her friend anyway, and I thought, “What the hell, let’s give it a try.”

It was dynamite. It has persisted, as I described above.

That got me into this notion of what it takes to be a male porn star—someone who can keep it up for a long time without finishing—it’s actually very possible. You won’t believe it, but here’s the trick: when you’re getting close to climax, you’re focusing on one erotic thing. What you need to do is carpet bomb your mind with many erotic things, bouncing from one to another, so you never focus on just one. It’s magic, I swear.

I’m not trying to brag too much, but I’ve managed to get both girls off many times, sometimes to the point where they have a competition. One might be at six orgasms while the other is at five. The record was nine for one and six or seven for the other, all without me finishing.

So, any guy can be a male porn star if he wants. That’s my last piece of advice for you.

… You’d be surprised by the feedback from women I get with posts like this. They love hearing an honest and unfiltered (for what they think females want to hear) male perspective. If I get pushback, it’s always 100% from a dude, some virtue signal or condemnation. To all the men who don’t like what I just wrote:

I hear your cry for help.

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